advice
10-10-2009
He cheated
I found out 3 months ago that y husband cheated on after fathers day. I saw signs but I played deaf and not paying attention with all the signal. I talked to him and he ask for forgiveness and promise to say away from her. They work together . After a month I start noticing my husband is changing and don't want me to visit his work because he sai the girl will see me and might complain to HR that I am harrasing her. And I can't go to their hang out for lunch with his friends cause she might come and he doesn't want any problem. Everytime I bring it up he start getting mad at me and making me feel guilty . He even saying thy maybe we should separate because I'm having a hardtime o move on. I beg him not to leave me for the kids sake. 3 days ago I was browsing his phone and I saw a txt message but the phone number I will never forget. He deny that it was for him . I cried and ask the real truth and he said trust me I don't know anything about it. I call the Cellphone company and ask how many times they txt each other. I found out that my husband txt her first tht why she txt back. I call the girl to talk to her . I was so polite and nice when I start talking to her . She start screaming to me and saying lots of nasty word. I'm the real wife but I am the one who got humiliated and I talk to my husband I wasn't screaming I was still calm I feel like I'm a jello . He admited they are talkin again on break time but nothin serious I said that's still cheating . He ask for second chance . I gave him another chance because of my seven yr old son beg me to stay. He agree to tell me everything work willing to work out . What I'm scared of they still work together if he did the second time he can do it again n again that's what I said to him. Right now he is doin everything but maybe after a month he might do it again. I said to him the third time is goodbye no more forgiveness . Please i need advice how to move on and forget all the pain . I gave another chance but I'm still doubting him how can I move on with him . Where do we start . How can I trust him again ? And believe things he was sharing me.
I think it's time to leave. Start saving up some money and stashing things you don't want him to take. Find your self a really good lawyer. Try to get proof of the cheating ( the text message) this will help prove infidility in your marriage. It may give you an edge when dividing thing. Now about forgiving him again. This is the second time. You gave him the second chance already. He blew it. I know it's hard to be on your own but I think you will be happier. I think he is making you out to be the person in the wrong when really he should be gravelling for your forgiveness. you should not be denied to go anywhere where he is. I think have him move out and if someday he proves him self different and goes to councilling then you can think about it as for me there is no way I would give him another chance.
Dr Mama Love
I think it's time to leave. Start saving up some money and stashing things you don't want him to take. Find your self a really good lawyer. Try to get proof of the cheating ( the text message) this will help prove infidility in your marriage. It may give you an edge when dividing thing. Now about forgiving him again. This is the second time. You gave him the second chance already. He blew it. I know it's hard to be on your own but I think you will be happier. I think he is making you out to be the person in the wrong when really he should be gravelling for your forgiveness. you should not be denied to go anywhere where he is. I think have him move out and if someday he proves him self different and goes to councilling then you can think about it as for me there is no way I would give him another chance.
Dr Mama Love
