advice
10/27/2009
cheating then
abusive no trust
abusive no trust
hi, i'm 42, was in 26 year relationship. dragged out to the bitter end, but still he wouldnt be honest with me. i was the 2nd lover he ever had, the first was a one time. he's been addicted to porn the whole time, about five years ago he started in the flesh. i caught him and he denied and bruised me from earlobe to elbow. we can't trust each other but it feels so bad to leave. i am on my own now, having serious trouble functioning, a rebellious disrespectful teen living with me 24/7 cause he doesn't want to get off the boat he's living on and get a decent place. we've seen each other a lot since the breakup a year ago, he made a lot of claims and i stated my case, i dont trust you, you want other women go get them. i lost my job in the middle of all this, thankfully i got the best job of my life. it's saving my life. we no more see each other, he's posting for serious partners online. i'm so hurt. i am such a fool. how could i have not left five years ago and at the same time how am i going to live with out the love of my life. how can i love him yet he hurt me so bad? why do i feel crazy? gawd i hope you can help me. thank you.
I can relate. I am 43, and have been in my relationship with my husband for 25 years. I have three sons 17,15 and 11. I know how rebellious they can be and how hard they can be to raise. No doubt you have your hands full but I believe you did the right thing to leave and to stand by what you said about trust. You are teaching your child a valuable lesson. It is not ok to be abusive physically or mentally. I think him going to craigs list for a serious relationship is his way of once again abusing you and hurting to you. He thinks he make you change your mind. I know it's hard but not impossible. I think this man needs counseling. R I commend you for doing the right things! Anytime you need to talk to someone about anything feel free too even if it's about your relationship with your son. I understand oh to well. Keep your friends and family close and use them for support. This is when you need them most. Use them.
Dr. Mama Love
I can relate. I am 43, and have been in my relationship with my husband for 25 years. I have three sons 17,15 and 11. I know how rebellious they can be and how hard they can be to raise. No doubt you have your hands full but I believe you did the right thing to leave and to stand by what you said about trust. You are teaching your child a valuable lesson. It is not ok to be abusive physically or mentally. I think him going to craigs list for a serious relationship is his way of once again abusing you and hurting to you. He thinks he make you change your mind. I know it's hard but not impossible. I think this man needs counseling. R I commend you for doing the right things! Anytime you need to talk to someone about anything feel free too even if it's about your relationship with your son. I understand oh to well. Keep your friends and family close and use them for support. This is when you need them most. Use them.
Dr. Mama Love
