advice
11/10/2009
mistress and trust
14 years ago when I was a teenager, I met a guy and lost my virginity to him. We never saw one another or spoke again after that night. He lived in another state where I was on vacation at. About 4 months ago I looked him up on Facebook and we began chatting online then that lead up to daily phone calls. He was in his 8th year of marriage and I was 6 months out of a very,very abusive marriage. A month after talking everyday we both decided to meet up for a weekend. He still lives in another state. We met and had an affair over a course of 3 days. His wife found out about it after reading some emails we sent back and forth and left him. There were no children involved. Him and I have been together every since. Every 2 weeks we travel to meet, he coming to my home or vice versa. We tell each other we love each other and he has asked me to move to his state which I am not against. Being the mistress in the relationship, my question is simple. Is there a future with us and can I trust him? I have always felt like he was missiing from my life and when we met up after all these years it's like we have known one another the whole time. He said he feels like he was meant to love me. I don't want to be blindsided even though I know I got myself in
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Face book is an amazing tool to get in touch with others! Is he still with his wife? Are they divorced now? Never start anything or move until the divorce has occured. You don't want to be a catalyst for the relationship to end. I would find that trust would definately be an issue. Who is to say he won't do the same thing to you. He said he loved his wife too remember. Appearently the words don't have a great deal of meaning. If you find you must stay in this relationship I suggest you take it very slow. Make sure you are with this man several years before any commitment is made. If you move to his state don't move in with him keep seperate spaces until he has proven his trust worthiness because right now I would say don't trust him. Keep me updated.
Dr. Mama Love
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Face book is an amazing tool to get in touch with others! Is he still with his wife? Are they divorced now? Never start anything or move until the divorce has occured. You don't want to be a catalyst for the relationship to end. I would find that trust would definately be an issue. Who is to say he won't do the same thing to you. He said he loved his wife too remember. Appearently the words don't have a great deal of meaning. If you find you must stay in this relationship I suggest you take it very slow. Make sure you are with this man several years before any commitment is made. If you move to his state don't move in with him keep seperate spaces until he has proven his trust worthiness because right now I would say don't trust him. Keep me updated.
Dr. Mama Love
