advice
12/02/2009
He's not playing straight
I got married three yrs ago to someone I only knwe for 6 weeks. I got pregnant soon after. He is a DJ at a night club. There were lots of problems with girls in the DJ booth dancing on him , numbers on the phone, girls calling i caught him ina very flirtacious embrace one day. I had enough and told him I wanted a divorce. He decided to quit his job we moved to NC for a yr. During that time I could not trust him and the fighting continued. We moved back home and have been seperated. He recently asked me to talk he wanted to work things out. I decided that I would try. That night I found a testm on his phone that said "Of course I still love you. Iso scared through and yes I wish I could be in your arms. I confronte him and he said that came from his daughter that he recently started talking to but I don't think that a 15yr old girl would write that to a man she doesn't know at 3 in the morning. There are lots of calls back and forth to this number I questioned him a nd twice he called me the moms name (his EX). I really miss having my family together but I think that my husband is lying to me . I don't think I can ever trust him. I'm going crazy I cant handle somene looking me in the eyes say they love me and be carring on an emotional affair behind my back and lie to me about it. Or Is he telling me the truth and I'm not listening he has called me this girls name twice. If that's not saying something. Nice to have an opinion Thanks for any help!
Well I hate to be the one with the bad news but things don't look so good. There is definately lies going on. There is no way a 15 year old girl would tell her father that she wants to be in his arms. Nor do I believe that he is getting calls from his daughter at 3 am. They call boyfriends and friends at that time not fathers. If it did happen it might happen once but not consistently. I realize you want to be together as a family but I don't think he is playing straight and I think the two of you at the very least needs to see a marriage counselor. The very fact that he is calling you by someone else name would be an indication that things are not what they should be. If you can get the number that he has been calling and check it out. Good Luck and Keep me posted.
Well I hate to be the one with the bad news but things don't look so good. There is definately lies going on. There is no way a 15 year old girl would tell her father that she wants to be in his arms. Nor do I believe that he is getting calls from his daughter at 3 am. They call boyfriends and friends at that time not fathers. If it did happen it might happen once but not consistently. I realize you want to be together as a family but I don't think he is playing straight and I think the two of you at the very least needs to see a marriage counselor. The very fact that he is calling you by someone else name would be an indication that things are not what they should be. If you can get the number that he has been calling and check it out. Good Luck and Keep me posted.
