advice
05/23/2010
The girl next
door
door
Mammalove,
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for about 5 yrs. To me the spark just isn't there anymore but I still care about her and love her I think. but here's my problem. My next door neighbor she has a boyfriend. been together a yr. But when he's not around we talk and flirt with each other and even kiss and rubb around on one another. I've fallen in love with her and we've not even had sex. and when her bf is around she still tries to stare at me or give me that certin look. u know. But then she tells me she is afraid of getting in trouble. and as long as there together I cant be with her. But I just want to cry I go over there everyday. Them my neighbors thinking I'm hanging out with them but really just there to see her. I cant stay away from her. I miss her and long to be with her. I've told her how i feel she says we'll see or maybe give it some time. but it feels i've waited forever and its killing me. I want to hold her in my arms and kiss
her and make love to her. But I cant and my gf already suspects something. cause we havent been intament in over 3months. I even came clean and told my gf that I had feelings for this other girl. but my gf wants to work things out and still wants to be with me. but if I only had the chance to be with my neighbor I would in a heartbeat. I've fallen in love and I cant help that. I wished I could but I'm soo confused. will I ever be with her. I know she finds me attractive. its so hard to even talk to her with her ol'e man around cause i believe he's even starting to suspect something. I dont know what to do. I know I'm in love with this girl. Please help me. What should I do?
Honey,
First off the girlfriend of 5 years has to go. If your messing with another girl and you think that you love this other girl it's time to end it with her. Just make sure that what your feeling for your neighbor is not just your hormones working Now, I need to tell you if I were the girl next door and knew you had a girlfriend of 5 years who you were with I would still stay with the boyfirend I had of 3 months because I would assume that you were in love with this other girl because you have been with her for so long and are still with her. I may be hoping that you would eventually like me and ditch the other girl but at this point I would think I haven't got a chance and I need to go on and be trying to do that.
If you love this neighbor and want to be with her break up with the first girl and when the neighbor ask why you broke up with her which she most likely will then tell her you can't be with some one when you are in love with another person. When she asks you who then you need to tell her it's her. Communication it is amazing how it can help sometimes but at times can be so hard. I think what it all comes down to is you have to break up and then its ok for everyone to know of you interest in that girl and then if your neighbor choses then she will breakup with hers and then both of you are free. If the girlfriend chooses not to then it's time to start looking for someone else because its not fair to the first girl to sting her a long.
Keep me posted!
Dr. Mama Love
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for about 5 yrs. To me the spark just isn't there anymore but I still care about her and love her I think. but here's my problem. My next door neighbor she has a boyfriend. been together a yr. But when he's not around we talk and flirt with each other and even kiss and rubb around on one another. I've fallen in love with her and we've not even had sex. and when her bf is around she still tries to stare at me or give me that certin look. u know. But then she tells me she is afraid of getting in trouble. and as long as there together I cant be with her. But I just want to cry I go over there everyday. Them my neighbors thinking I'm hanging out with them but really just there to see her. I cant stay away from her. I miss her and long to be with her. I've told her how i feel she says we'll see or maybe give it some time. but it feels i've waited forever and its killing me. I want to hold her in my arms and kiss
her and make love to her. But I cant and my gf already suspects something. cause we havent been intament in over 3months. I even came clean and told my gf that I had feelings for this other girl. but my gf wants to work things out and still wants to be with me. but if I only had the chance to be with my neighbor I would in a heartbeat. I've fallen in love and I cant help that. I wished I could but I'm soo confused. will I ever be with her. I know she finds me attractive. its so hard to even talk to her with her ol'e man around cause i believe he's even starting to suspect something. I dont know what to do. I know I'm in love with this girl. Please help me. What should I do?
Honey,
First off the girlfriend of 5 years has to go. If your messing with another girl and you think that you love this other girl it's time to end it with her. Just make sure that what your feeling for your neighbor is not just your hormones working Now, I need to tell you if I were the girl next door and knew you had a girlfriend of 5 years who you were with I would still stay with the boyfirend I had of 3 months because I would assume that you were in love with this other girl because you have been with her for so long and are still with her. I may be hoping that you would eventually like me and ditch the other girl but at this point I would think I haven't got a chance and I need to go on and be trying to do that.
If you love this neighbor and want to be with her break up with the first girl and when the neighbor ask why you broke up with her which she most likely will then tell her you can't be with some one when you are in love with another person. When she asks you who then you need to tell her it's her. Communication it is amazing how it can help sometimes but at times can be so hard. I think what it all comes down to is you have to break up and then its ok for everyone to know of you interest in that girl and then if your neighbor choses then she will breakup with hers and then both of you are free. If the girlfriend chooses not to then it's time to start looking for someone else because its not fair to the first girl to sting her a long.
Keep me posted!
Dr. Mama Love
