advice
06/26/2010
the milk is free
I am wondering what I am doing. I think I have already gone past the point of falling for a guy. We have been friends for over 12 months now and a few months back started hanging out and talking all the time every day. I do anything for him and feel that's the key to being with him. We have had sex on numerous occasions. Part of that is actually before I even moved out of my ex's home. I would go and spend the night with him and we would have sex and spend the weekend together. We both to this day have expressed our feelings for each other about how we both feel very attatched to one another, here is my problem. I have three kids and he says that he just cant do a relationship due to the kids. I am so upset by this and dont know what to do. I want a relationship with him and know he wants one with me so how do I get him to look past my kids. Oh he also knows my three children and has never had a problem being around them before but says he just cant do the kids because he is afraid of what will happen and the attatchment with my children. I want to have him be able to look past the fears of my kids and be happy together.
I think maybe it's time to play hard to get. Make him chase you. You know the old saying why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Which means if he has it all you, sex why does he need to go the rest of the way with commitment and taking on the children. Play the game make him chase you. Pull back some and tell him you can't keep up this way. If for any reason he says he can't do it still well, the children are still number one and you deserve more then. You deserve someone who will take on you and your kids. I do think though if he can't have it all without commitment he may change his tune. Keep me posted
Dr. Mama Love
I think maybe it's time to play hard to get. Make him chase you. You know the old saying why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Which means if he has it all you, sex why does he need to go the rest of the way with commitment and taking on the children. Play the game make him chase you. Pull back some and tell him you can't keep up this way. If for any reason he says he can't do it still well, the children are still number one and you deserve more then. You deserve someone who will take on you and your kids. I do think though if he can't have it all without commitment he may change his tune. Keep me posted
Dr. Mama Love
