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07/07/2010
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Hi, my name is _____. and at this point in my life, i have dug myself a serious hole and just cant seem to get of it.
I need advice about my problems with my fiance.
Here's the story:
I met him and his family last year and at that time i wasnt looking for a relationship of any kind, because i had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship months before. Both my Fiance and his cousin liked me and i figured that it wudnt hurt to get to know them. His cousin is closer to my age so of course i took him more seriously than my fiance. But it turned out i wasnt all that attracted to his cousins personality. After only talking to my fiance for a few months i knew that i loved him and we werent even together and only got to see each other on occasion.
My fiance and i werent together until this year.
I made a huge mistake and at a new years party i got very drunk, and i slept with his cousin. even tho i am only physically attracted to him (and i was single at the time).
Eventually my fiance heard about this, and i lied, in fear that he wud leave me.
Months went by, we got engaged and everything was good. and then the subject come up again. and i couldnt lie to him any longer about it, because i want our marriage to b a honest one. and i have never lied to him about anything else.
Wen i told him, he left. He is ignoring me and wont return any of my phone calls. He said before he left that he was undecided if we will continue things.
Sense Friday i have only slept 5 hours, and cant eat anything. I am truely heart broken, and i dont know what to do. I have never been so scared in my life to loose something, and im not a person that cries. but it seems like the ocean lives in me rite now, and i just cant stop.
I'm totally lost with out him. And feel completely empty. and to top things off, i have no home, no job, and no car.
Do you have any advice or suggestions on what i can do to better the situation? I will do anything to make it work between him and i
Ok, the only mistake I can see that you really made is lying to him about sleeping with his cousin. You weren't seeing your fiance at the time you slept with him and had never had a relationship with him. Therefore although I am sure it bothers him he really can't blame you for things in the past before you were together.
so, now we have the lie yes, you shouldn't of lied but now it is time for wooing. You need to beg for forgiveness for the fact that you did lie and also tell him you would have never done anything to hurt him. If you had known you would have been together you wouldn't have done it. So, send him flowers,,,pick him flowers, write him. Let him know you love him. Gravel a bit.
I think he is just hurt but I think he will come around. Give it time. Good Luck and keep me posted
Dr. Mama Love
I need advice about my problems with my fiance.
Here's the story:
I met him and his family last year and at that time i wasnt looking for a relationship of any kind, because i had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship months before. Both my Fiance and his cousin liked me and i figured that it wudnt hurt to get to know them. His cousin is closer to my age so of course i took him more seriously than my fiance. But it turned out i wasnt all that attracted to his cousins personality. After only talking to my fiance for a few months i knew that i loved him and we werent even together and only got to see each other on occasion.
My fiance and i werent together until this year.
I made a huge mistake and at a new years party i got very drunk, and i slept with his cousin. even tho i am only physically attracted to him (and i was single at the time).
Eventually my fiance heard about this, and i lied, in fear that he wud leave me.
Months went by, we got engaged and everything was good. and then the subject come up again. and i couldnt lie to him any longer about it, because i want our marriage to b a honest one. and i have never lied to him about anything else.
Wen i told him, he left. He is ignoring me and wont return any of my phone calls. He said before he left that he was undecided if we will continue things.
Sense Friday i have only slept 5 hours, and cant eat anything. I am truely heart broken, and i dont know what to do. I have never been so scared in my life to loose something, and im not a person that cries. but it seems like the ocean lives in me rite now, and i just cant stop.
I'm totally lost with out him. And feel completely empty. and to top things off, i have no home, no job, and no car.
Do you have any advice or suggestions on what i can do to better the situation? I will do anything to make it work between him and i
Ok, the only mistake I can see that you really made is lying to him about sleeping with his cousin. You weren't seeing your fiance at the time you slept with him and had never had a relationship with him. Therefore although I am sure it bothers him he really can't blame you for things in the past before you were together.
so, now we have the lie yes, you shouldn't of lied but now it is time for wooing. You need to beg for forgiveness for the fact that you did lie and also tell him you would have never done anything to hurt him. If you had known you would have been together you wouldn't have done it. So, send him flowers,,,pick him flowers, write him. Let him know you love him. Gravel a bit.
I think he is just hurt but I think he will come around. Give it time. Good Luck and keep me posted
Dr. Mama Love
