They say they love you that they really love you. That there is no one else in their lives. Please stay you can't leave. I will do better in our relationship I do all this because I love you.  Please don't leave. I don't want to get a divorce. I still love you!  I won't do it again. I promise. It was an accident. Please don't go. I love you.  If you think about it was really your fault. If you hadn't talked to him our relationship would be ok now.  If you hadn't worn that dress. You should have listened to me.  Have you heard this before?

Knowing when to leave is important, sometimes it's just time to pack your bags. Often times we stay in a relationship because that is all we know or it's "comfortable" maybe they really do love me and they won't do it again.Maybe it was my fault if I had just not made him or her angry. I want my kids to have a normal family. He won't touch the kids (think again here). I just won't make him angry any mote. Stop trying to convince your self. You really need to leave.  There are several key indicators that allow us to see when its time to quit. We need to pay attention to these. Don't try to make excuses.

Sometimes counseling works but when it fails...LEAVE! Get yourself a good lawyer and stash some money away while you are in counseling just in case you need it Leave when counseling fails. Remember also that it is important that if any of these key indicators are occurring you should have him leave or you need to leave until your are sure that these are no longer occurring. This is not love. Love does not hurt. You are God's child and do not deserve to be abused. God does not expect us to be any ones doormat.

Signs of Abuse

1. Infidelity- he or she is cheating on you. (One time is too many) This is mental abuse. Sometimes this can be worse then the physical abuse. 

2. Physical abuse- your no ones doormat you don't deserve this GET OUT! Don't believe it's just an accident when you know it wasn't. Don't waste your time with someone who is like this.

3. Mental abuse- this one is a tough one to know but very important. Sometimes words hurt more then physical abuse.

a. He puts you down in front of others. Ouch that really hurts.  How mean can that be to be belittled in front of people you love or your friends.  They try to bring you down in order to make themselves feel better about them selves.

b. He controls you- wants to know where you are and what you are doing all the time.  calls you at work to make sure your there. Text you all the time wants to know who you are talking to and who you are friends with. What store are you going to?  When will you be home.  Tells you who you can talk to, who you can be friends with, what you can eat, what you can watch on tv and the list goes on and on.

c. He says things that does not bring you up but always brings you.  It's the belittling. Your a terrible mother, Your a terrible Father.  You can't sing, you can't dance.  Your fat. You eat too much.  Your not good at sports. Your old, your ugly.  These may have some truths to them but most of the time they don't most of the time your actually quite good at them but they don't want you to be good at anything because it  is then that they lose control of the situation. 

4. He makes you cry all the time or depressed.

5. If your dating and your parents and friends don't like him. Trust them and take a deeper look at things because sometimes we are blind with love and can't see the real picture!God gave us these people to love us and sometimes we have to trust them and look to see what they are really trying to say. Sometimes we are blinded by love and cannot see the whole picture.