Abuse usually comes from the people in a relationship that claims their undying love. How can one be abusive to someone they love?  Love is suppose to be kind, considerate, put the other person first. It's suppose to put the other person first. Love never keeps records of wrongs.  It isn't suppose to hurt.  Love is suppose to make you feel good. It shouldn't make you cry. Love should never be like that if this is what is happening in your relationship then it's time to get out of that relationship.

1. Does he blame you or think you are the cause of his/her emotions?

2.Does he/she try to isolate you from family and friends?

3. Does he/she hit inantimate objects?

4. Does he/she hit animials? If they hit animials they'll hit you!

5.Does he/she want to know where you are and what you are doing all the time? They think your having an affair or flirting with every one else

6. Does he/she tell you who you are allowed to talk to and who you are not?

7. Do you feel you have to walk on egg shells just to make sure he/she doesn't explode?

8. You don't bring up certain topics for fear he/she will get upset? Avoid those topics because you know that they will get upset and might hurt you.

9. Does your partner embarrass you or humiliate you in public? Do they make you feel stupid? or say things that they know will make you feel bad.

10. Do they ignore or put down your opinion?

11. Blame you for his/her abusive behavior?

12.  Do they only see you as a trophy? They don't care who you are they just want you to look pretty.

13. Think you deserve the bad behavior. No one deserves to be abused.

14. Overly controls finances. Won't let you have money because he is afraid you won't spend it right. No trust here.

15. Restricts food or shelter or medication this will ultimately hurt you and therefore is abusive.

1. All of the above you see in this person.

2.Does he/she have bruises and marks on the body that can not easily be explain. Often they try to explain away what happened and a lot of times it tends to be excessive.

3. When telling you what happened does not make eye contact with you. (they are afraid if they look at you that their facial expression and their eyes will tell you everything. They are ashamed of lying to you but they don't want you to know)

4.  Do they blink their eyes a little more then usual.  Do they cross their arms over their chest almost as if to protecting themselves while talking to you. ( this is body language that is saying I don't want you to know something.  I am protecting my self from everything.)

5. When he or she raises their arm suddenly do they wince? (they have learned that they need to protect themselves and it is a natural instict that comes in to play here.)

6. Frequent accidents.

7. Personality changes