Self Esteem and Love (relationship)
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What is the most important gifts you can give your self? It is the gift of self love and self esteem. Self esteem (self love) is the value we give ourselves. People with high self esteem (self love) are more likely to succeed in life and in their relationships they are better able to find happiness and eventually true love. They have learned to value themselves and are able to love themselves. Self esteem and self confidence go hand and hand and will be found attractive by others. People will find it to be very sexy and love it. When we value ourselves we will also become successful in our relationships and in our love lives.
Good self esteem allows you to be the best person you can be. It allows you to remain strong through peer pressure or bad times. It let's you know you are beautiful. That you deserve to have love and happiness. Remember God doesn't make junk and he made you. Visualize the person you want to be. Can you see the person you want to become? We want to be that person with high self esteem not low. We want to be the person who can love themselves. Self hatred will get you no where and will bring everyone your near down.
You might ask why that would be it is because before the two shall be come one we must be one by ourselves. We must be able to happy alone, complete and fulfilled.It will make ad better life for your mate. Your mate will only improve upon your already happy and fulfilled life. We must learn to love yourselves. We must be whole on our own other wise we are constantly looking for others to bring us up and make us feel better about ourselves.
Self esteem is the ability to know what our good qualities and strengths are even when we are not feeling good about ourselves because of something we have done or said. It is the ability to see what our short comings and love ourselves anyways because we know we can learn from it. We never give up on ourselves because we are not perfect. We are worthy of loveeven if we are not perfect. No one is perfect. We only strive to better ourselves.
I am a promise, I am a possibility, I am a great big bundle of potentiality. I am beautiful, I deserve happiness, I can do anything I set my mind to.I am lovable. These are words of affirmation that you should say every day until you believe it. Do it in a mirror and say it out loud over and over again. It's an important message that you need to learn. The more senses you use when saying it the better. It's kind of like hypnosis but it's all true. You just have to learn to believe it. It will make your life happier and more complete. I know it's easy to say that it would never work for you but try it. It can't hurt.
Learning to loveyour self is a gift, a wonderful gift that you can give yourself. How do we learn to do this? Hopefully it is something our parents have taught us but if it isn't it is something they taught it we can still learn. We should start by not being negative about where we are now. Never say I am not pretty or not smart, or am not what ever. You get the point it's we are not's that we don't want to have. We can start finding our self esteem by tring to improve ourselves by making plans to become a better person. We need to start a journal.
Journals allow us to see where we have been and where we are going. In this journal I want you to first write the answers to a couple of questions. What do I want out of my life? Where do I want to be in one year? Five years? How about ten years? When we make plans we are essentially setting goals for ourselves. This will allow you to eventually be successful in your love life and other relationships that you have.
Write in the journal every day how you feel about yourself. This will help you learn to love yourself. It will help you figure out who you are. Now write five things you like about yourself and five things you would like to change. We are figuring out what will make us happy. What is important to us. Then once we figure out where we want to be we need to start figuring out how we can meet our goals. In the journal that you are keeping write down what steps we need to take in order to get to where we want to be. When we write things down we can see where we have been and where we are going. It reminds you of what you need to do achieve your goals.
Now while we have made our goals we now need to separate them into three categories. One is the ones we have obtained, another one of what is right now with in our grasp and then the last one should be ones that are just slightly out of our reach but still obtainable. Remember this will be different for everyone but it is important that you are honest with yourself.
We do not want to put down something like I want to win the lottery. We all want to win the lottery but having that as a goal will only set you up for a fall and we are not looking for that.We want to succeed in our goals. We are looking to improve ourselves and to become the person that God and we want to be. Put a star next to the ones that you can accomplish today. The one that is most important to us.
When we believe in ourselves and have high self esteem people want to be near you. They want to share in your positive attitude. You will be a magnet for people and will find that this brings about many people interested in being your mate and a new love relationship can begin. Love your self and others will love you too! It's amazing how that works. Try to find it and learn to have it and you will see.
