Dealing with a Break up
Now that you have cried it out its time to sever the ties. Delete this person from your phone, face book, email or anything else you have on him or her. Avoid this person for awhile don’t go places that you know this person will be.
Love and Relationship Advice
After the break up
He broke up with me
she broke up with me
Dealing with a break up
coping with a break up
love help
This isn’t always easy especially if you have been in that relationship for a long time. Sometimes relationships end and when it does you have to get on with life. That person was a big part of your life now they are gone. You have gone from having someone to share your every date life with to having no one there any more.
What you did with your free time is drastically affected by this. The person you would always go to the movies with, the person you went out to dinner with, the person you talked about work or school with is suddenly gone. Who do you call when you have news good or bad.
Do you find that your going to the phone you pick it up and then remember that you really can’t call that other person. Now what? Who do you talk to who do you share what your dying to tell someone.
It’s time to regroup and figure out who you can turn to, who are your friends and who is your mates friends. I mean weren’t you sharing friends before this all happened? The end of a love relationship changes everything. Does it revert back to who was friends with who before darn long to even figure out who was friends will be who’s. If you have been married twenty years and now getting a divorce or are your friends and who are theirs when both of you had them as friends.
Try not to worry to much about that because the reality of it is it’s your friends who will be doing the choosing of who they will stand by but be careful some friends will try to straddle the fence and that is a difficult balance for anyone. Also be careful when it’s a couple you got together or does it change or maybe it’s been to darn long to even figure out who was friends will be who’s. If you have been married twenty years and now getting a divorce or are your friends and who are theirs when both of you had them as friends.
First you need to have the time that you can grieve and cry. It’s ok to cry and who ever says it’s not is crazy because crying is therapeutic and allows us to let the grief we are feeling out. Many times we actually feel much better after a good cry. If you don’t give all the negative feelings a way to get out it can cause you to become depressed so let it out and when your done that’s when time to take the next step to healing.
If you have a favorite hang out spot this is not the time to go there. Get rid of all the things that he or she got you to go there. Get rid of all the things that he or she got you donate it. I am sure there are people who would love to have the things that you have that remind you of him/her. Do what ever you have to do just get rid of it! You don’t need things around to remind you of them. This is part of the moving on process.
Write things down. How your feeling it’s a way of recognizing how you feel it helps you sort things out. You can rip it up when your done but it does help to write about it. I guess I tell people this because I am a writer but, if you’re not a writer you can also do other things to help gardening, running, sports.
Sports and running will give you endorphins to help you through it. Endorphins are a natural chemicals that your body produces. It gives you a natural high or boost. Immerse your self in something. Anything to help let it go. Go back to school and get a degree, change your hair, different color or style. You need to shake things up a bit. Use this a stepping stone to improve your life. Don’t use negative things that will bring you down and make you feel worse.
