Marriage Relationship Advice
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<Love Help, queen of body language,
The second thing to remember is when you do argue and everyone will eventually. Remember to use words like "I feel like this.... when you do this" Never use words like "You always do..." You never..." You are placing the blame totally on the other person. It's an accusation. Remember money is on of the biggest areas people fight about. If you have debt problems seek help.
No time for each other. The kids need to go here and there and the house needs cleaned and the groceries bought. We have soccer practice and pianio lessons and we have to go to work. There just isn't any time for the two of you to have a real conversation. I am telling you right now that you better start making time for each other. Remember someday your children will move away and it will be just the two of you again. Marriage is work. You must take the time to cultivate it or it will die.
Take interest in what your spouse is doing even if it isn't something you would like to do. Put the other person first. If grocery shopping needs to be done and there is no choice but to go, and if both of you are extremely tired. Who do you think should go to the store? Should you say, "you go I don't feel like going." No, you say, "I'll go I know how tired you are." This is putting the other person first. Helping your spouse even when you really don't feel like it.
Compliment your spouse. Your beautiful, you look nice, I'm really proud of you. Thank- you for being so good with our children. Many think that you don't have to tell them, they already know. Well the truth is we all need that affirmation that we are good, that we are worthy and that the spouse still thinks we are great!
Make sure that you remember that when you are living with someone else you need time to get use to being with this other person. Some times it's hard to get use to the habits that they have. Maybe they squeeze the tube of tooth paste from the middle or throws his coats over a chair and doesn't put it away. Is it worth a fight? Is it a habit you can live with? Pick and chose the fights you have. Think is this worth it? or is it something I can live with because remember there are things that you do that can really drive them crazy.
Marriage is a wonderful thing it's the bringing together of two people together and making a new family. We are made to have another person in our life to be our other half. And the two shall become one. There are times in your marriage when things are tough and maybe you aren't happy with what is going on. It's important to stick with each other and work it out.
Remember to tell the people that you love that you love them. Do not say ditto, back at you or I feel the same. This is not saying the words I love you. Those words mean everything. Tell them every day don't assume that they know. who knows it may be the last time that you get to tell them. Text them during the day or call them to let them know that you are thinking about them. Remember it is the little things that we do that mean so much.
