Should I get a divorce is a question that people begin to think when their marriage is falling apart.  Some people wait to get a divorce because there are children involved (divorce with children is difficult), some people don' divorce because of the cost and are afraid of what the divorce settlement would be.  

Be sure that you are really ready for a divorce because once you say you want one you can never take that back.  You have started the beginning to the end.  Make sure this is what you really want.   Make sure you exhausted all possibility of repairing your marriage.  Seek marriage counseling even if you are the only one who will go.  Remember communication is one of the most important thing in any marriage and this is probably something you are lacking right now.

Divorce and kids makes a difficult combination.  Make sure you tell the kids that you love them and nothing will ever change that. Never speak badly about your ex in front of your kids. That can cause damage to your relationship with your children for both of you. Set a good example. If you and your husband or wife  are constantly fighting sometimes it's to your children's best interest for you to get a divorce.  Constant fighting is never good for the kids.

No cost divorce, no fault divorce, annulments only works if you don't have kids and have not been married long.  Other wise you need divorce settlement with alimony and child support and visitation all written down so that there is no questions.

Any time physical abuse is involved I will advocate for a divorce.  There is absolutely no reason to stay in a marriage or any relationship where there is abuse.  If you find you don't want to leave the marriage yet at least move out until they seek counseling and the counselor is convinced it won't happen again.

Emotional abuse can sometimes be worse then the physical abuse.  Longer lasting. Please seek help if these are occurring.

Although most of the time neither physical abuse or emotional abuse (severe emotional abuse) is the cause.  It's that your differences are something that can't be lived with.

If you are constantly fighting then it probably a good idea to separate if there is no end in sight.

Right now our society is having the lowest divorce rate ever. I wonder why? Hmmm maybe because no one can afford to get divorce.  With the economy the way it is it's makes people think twice because they are not sure they can afford it on their own, at least without living in a box.  We are in a two income society, living on your own with children is not always an option.  Since, many would end up homeless they chose to just stick it out at least until the kids are gone.

When deciding to get a divorce make sure that you are fincially ready for it, make a list of all valuables in the house and set aside some money for when you first start out.  Before moving out make sure that you check with your lawyer and make sure this is what you should do.

If you are getting a legal separation there are some low-cost clinics that do legal work and some private practice attorneys and paralegals who will fill out your forms for a small fee and review your separation agreement to make sure the paperwork is complete before it's filed with the court. Sometimes this is helpful when you are going through such an emotional time.

The decision to get a divorce is a hard one. Think it over carefully. Make sure it is what you really want and that you have tried everything.

Make sure you line up emotional support before you ask for the divorce because it will be a difficult time for you and your family.  Family and friends can help you through these tough times. But, make sure you don't let your family or friends dictate how the divorce should go.  Make your own decision.  You can get their advice but ultimately this is a decision that only you can make.

Try not to be selfish when dividing the goods up. Remember that you loved this person and maybe you can't live with them and maybe you are angry that's normal. Remember the promises you made even if your not keeping the death do us part.  In time if you can make things smooth maybe you can actually be friend. Time will tell.