sacrifice in a relationship
Sacrifices in a relationship is often what is needed to keep the relationship going. Its often needed because each of the two people in the relationship have different interest and different needs. 
To sacrifice means to give up something of great value maybe it’s a new job that one of them have gotten which requires them to move. This means that both of them are required to leave. Perhaps it is a sacrifice for both of them. They must leave family and friends in order to pursue other possibility in their life. Perhaps in order to get ahead in life one of them needs another job and they must sacrifice being home and doing other things in order to make the money required of them to survive.
No relationship is equal give and take. One point you may each be giving 50/50 another week it might 80/20 or 90/10. It changes weekly and daily depending on the need of each of the individual. Each time you are giving more then the 50% there is sacrifice involved. The sacrifice can go on for weeks, months or years. People in a committed relationship who are in love with each find this more acceptable then those who aren’t.their loved ones life better.
When you love someone you tend to want to make that sacrifice because you want to put the other persons needs first. We can see the sacrifices people make all the time. We see it when a loved one is ill and the amount of energy and time a person puts into it knowing they may never get anything in return. We see the person taking care of the person they love giving up many things in their lives in order to make
Greater love hath no man then he lay down his life for a friend.
Wow, once again the Bible says it all. I believe this is talking about more then actually dying. It’s talking about giving up our own wants and needs to help someone else, someone we love.
Now, there are extreme cases and then are more subtle cases giving up careers for the benefit of the family. Moving when you really don’t want to because your husband or wife got a better job. Not going our with the guys because you have something going on in the family. We cling to our love one. We set every thing in our life aside and cling to our other half. This is the way God intended it to be and by design the way we should be.
I say this because we all know selfish people. People who only think about themselves and no one else. They can never possibly know what true committed love is unless they can give up their selfish ways. When it stops being what is best for me is when they can learn how to love. Until then if you are trying to be in a relationship with someone who only thinks about him self the relationship will ultimately fail because of this selfish behavior. We all know people like this. They spend all the money on themselves, always worried about what’s in it for him.
They never grow up they still act like two year olds never moving on. If you see a man or women who is selfish stay away from them because the relationship will never work out. significant other to a gathering, to having an affair with another person. The ultimate selfish person would be the one who could make his girlfriend into a slave. She will cook for him, massage his feet, clean his apartment, and if needed, open beer bottles for him with her teeth or the boyfriend who is made to work all kinds of hours and spend all on her. Once in a while having problems with selfish behavior is normal, consistently there is a problem. Be aware of the selfish person and stay away from them.
The dictionary defines selfishness as a few different things: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; pleasure or well-being without a regard for others There is nothing in the word selfishness that says anything about working together, sharing, or being concerned with another person. Selfishness can show itself in many different ways in a relationship. It can be something as simple as forgetting to call if you're coming home later than usual, to not inviting your
Some one who is willing to sacrifice for you and you for them is the type of relationship you want. It doesn’t mean you are a door mat and let them walk all over because. The key here is that when both are giving every thing they possibly can at any one time, it’s the foundation for a wonderful, beautiful relationship. It’s the willingness to put the other person first above your own needs, wants or desires.
Sacrifice in a relationship only works when it is willing to be given on both sides. If only one of you is willing to sacrifice then the relationship becomes unequal and the relationship is doomed. You say but what about what you said about not always being 50/50? Well that is true it’s not the difference is whether both parties are willing to give it their all.
